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canada goose store Sorry if I said too many things. My bf says very similar things, and he is always right. Steeling yourself from the problems of being human and insecure and fragile with the beauty of being human through love. You really helped me out, reminding myself to think, simply, positively, being an island of love, is really the strongest force I have. As you say its not a choice of stopping depression, but it is very much a choice. Its a hard truth, because depression makes you want to give up all control, suicide becomes enticing in that way to me, but you have to actively work against it mentally. canada goose store

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